When I was pregnant, there will be somebody that touches my baby bump without asking me consent. After my baby was born, seeing my baby being touched by strangers also doesn't feel good to me. Not only because of the germs lurking on their finger tips, I also felt disrespect as the person is invading our personal space and boundaries.
Unwanted touching is always inappropriate, and it is a difficult and awkward to reject touch from a stranger. Most of the time it happened so fast that the person was gone before I could react. I know this word might sound heavy, but sometime I do felt "harassed".
Of course, I can do my part to stop people to touch my baby. Like telling off strangers to stay away, putting up "NO touching" signs, and putting up mosquito net to create a barrier. Doing these is effective, but awkward as well.
It will be great that if everyone could educate themselves about respecting people's space and boundaries, especially for baby bump and children. If you wouldn't walk to a stranger and randomly touch the person's arm, pinch their cheeks or even kiss the person, why would you want to do it to a pregnant lady, a child or toddler you don't know?
If you really can't help to touch, ask the pregnant mom or parents for permission before touching. If they allows, everybody is happy. If they don't, you give them a chance to express their disagreement, and you prevent yourself from offending a stranger.
I have no problem if strangers admire my baby from far, or play peekaboo with her. Physical touch is definitely a no no.
I yet to find somebody that begs to differ. If you are one, please let me know what you think. 😃
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